God’s incomplete story

It must have been tough being one of God’s prophets in ancient Israel.  You know that you are commissioned for an incredible work – speaking on behalf of the Creator of the Universe, and delivering His messages to humanity.  However, it is not an easy task.  Oftentimes, the people don’t want to hear what you have to say.  Many don’t want to be called out of their self-focused, sinful lifestyles.  Sometimes, the prophet had to deliver a message of punishment for Israel…and who among us likes being the bearer of bad news?

Like many other prophets, Elijah had threats on his life, even coming from the current king and queen.  Later on, Isaiah was commissioned by God to tell Israel that national punishment was coming.  When he asked God how long he should preach this message, God replied, “until the land is ruined and desolate” (Isaiah 6:11).  Not exactly a crowd-pleasing message to share.

But staying silent wasn’t an option, either.  Jeremiah was another prophet who foretold the destruction of Judah.  Here’s what he had to say about not wanting to preach any more “bad news”:

Jeremiah 20:9
I say, “I won’t mention Him or speak any longer in His name.”
But His message becomes a fire burning in my heart, shut up in my bones.
I become tired of holding it in, and I cannot prevail.

We also have to consider that the prophets didn’t necessarily understand the full implication of God’s message.  After all, they were simply the messenger, not the originator.  In many instances, they were delivering prophecies for the people of their day, but they also often spoke of a coming Messiah…and God did not give them all the details about the salvation His Messiah would bring.  Peter also brings up this point in one of his letters:

1 Peter 1:10-12
Concerning this salvation, the prophets, who prophesied about the grace that would come to you, searched and carefully investigated.  They inquired into what time or what circumstances the Spirit of Christ within them was indicating when He testified in advance to the sufferings of Christ and the glories that would follow.  It was revealed to them that they were not serving themselves but you.

The Old Testament prophets did their best to discover God’s plan for the Messiah, but ultimately, they were not given the full picture.  Instead, they learned that their messages and efforts were meant to serve others…and not just their own curiosities.  Although they did not get the “full story” during their lifetime, God did give them enough information so they could do the work He had for them.

The Apostle John acknowledged being in a similar situation when he wrote his gospel message:

John 20:30-31
Jesus performed many other signs in the presence of His disciples that are not written in this book.  But these are written so that you may believe that Jesus is the Messiah, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in His name.

There were lots of things John could have written about, including many signs that Jesus performed before ascending into heaven.  Those would have been really interesting to read about, I’m sure!  However, John selected specific stories from Jesus’ life that were all aimed at one purpose, the main thing John (and God) wanted us to know: so that you may believe that Jesus is the Messiah, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in His name. 

There is a parallel here between the Old Testament prophets and us modern believers.  We don’t have the full story of how and when God will move through history.  We don’t get to know the date when Jesus will return.  But there is still work to do.

Thankfully, the Old Testament prophets pressed on and did the hard work of delivering God’s message.  Many of them are commended in “God’s Hall of Fame” and you can read what God had to say about them in Hebrews 11.  We, too, can press on, sharing the message of the gospel to the people around us.  God will also commend and reward those who do the work He has for us now. 

Keep Pressing,
Ken

Does God play favorites?

If a kid has siblings, at some point they are going to wonder which kid their parents like the most.  With some parents, it’s painfully obvious that they favor one child over another.  At the other end of the spectrum are parents who express love to their children equally.  However, since we all receive love differently (see: love languages), there is a possibility that children can interpret a parent’s expression of love to a sibling as favoritism.

The same dynamic can play out in other settings when there is an authority person over a group.  Work, sports teams, and social clubs are all examples of places where favoritism can show up.  And if you’ve read even a chapter or two of the gospel accounts, you’ll notice that the disciples are constantly angling to be considered Jesus’ “right-hand man”.

Out of the 12 disciples, Jesus did have an inner circle made up of Peter, James, and John.  However, even among those three, you can find some jostling for position.  While you might assume this kind of posturing only took place early on in the ministry, you would be wrong.  Even after Jesus’ resurrection, we see expressions of concern about positions and favorites.

The setting for this particular scene is a familiar one – Peter had denied knowing Jesus three times during the night Jesus was arrested.  After the resurrection, Jesus spent 40 days with the disciples.  During that time, He had a specific conversation with Peter, restoring him three times and re-commissioning him as a leader.  Towards the end of their conversation, Jesus tells Peter this:

John 21:18-19
“Truly I tell you, when you were younger, you would tie your belt and walk wherever you wanted.  But when you grow old, you will stretch out your hands and someone else will tie you and carry you where you don’t want to go.”

He said this to indicate by what kind of death Peter would glorify God.  After saying this, He told him, “Follow Me.”

On the one hand, Jesus gave Peter some good news – he’s going to live to the point that he has grown old.  But then there’s also bad news – Jesus is indicating that Peter’s death will be via crucifixion, as to stretch out your hands was a common euphemism for someone dying on a cross.  Although He just gave Peter an incredible foresight into his future, Jesus then brought his attention back to the present with His command of “Follow Me”.

However, Peter’s attention did drift elsewhere:

John 21:20-21
So Peter turned around and saw the disciple Jesus loved following them, the one who had leaned back against Jesus at the supper and asked, “Lord, who is the one that’s going to betray You?”  When Peter saw him, he said to Jesus, “Lord, what about him?”

John was the youngest disciple, and he seemed to have a special “in” with Jesus…after all, he was the one to ask such a direct question to Jesus during the Last Supper.  In fact, it was Peter who put John up to asking the question in the first place.  Peter didn’t have the confidence that he could ask such a question…but thought John could.

You can almost hear the thoughts of Peter in this moment…Oh, so I’m going to die violently.  I wonder if Jesus’ “favorite” will face the same pain?  How fair is this going to be?

That’s always our hang up, isn’t it?  If we’re going down, we want to know how many others are going to suffer with us.  And…if someone else isn’t going to suffer like us…then we want to know WHY.

However, Jesus didn’t answer Peter’s question.  Instead, He said:

John 21:22
“If I want him to remain until I come,” Jesus answered, “what is that to you?  As for you, follow Me.”

Jesus wasn’t obligated to answer Peter’s question.  Peter is not the one to determine if God’s plan for another person’s life is acceptable.  Peter doesn’t get to judge Jesus’ actions, looking for favoritism.  I love the blunt question, “What is that to you?”.  Peter’s focus needs to be on his own walk with God, and not on anyone else.

So, when we get full of ourselves or down on God because someone else has been blessed in ways that we haven’t, or we think that our struggles are unfair compared to the lives of other believers, I hope Jesus’ question to Peter rings in our ears:

What is that to you?  As for you, follow Me.

Keep Pressing,
Ken

What's in the New Testament?

We commonly refer to the Bible as a “book” – in fact, it is the best-selling book of all-time.  However, the Bible itself is a collection of 66 individual books.  These books were written over approximately 1500 years, by 40 different authors, and in 3 different languages (Hebrew, Aramaic, and Greek).

Through the Holy Spirit, God inspired the authors to write His words and His message to humanity.  Each author brought their own experiences, concerns, and writing style…and as such, we have a variety of literature types within the Scriptures.  The major division of the Bible’s books is between the Old Testament and the New Testament.  For this blog post, we’ll look at what God has said in the New Testament:

New Testament – This is a collection of 27 books which details Jesus’ birth, ministry, death on the cross, His resurrection, and the world-wide impact of these events.  They are divided into 5 different categories:

The Gospels – These 4 accounts tell of Jesus’ life, ministry, death, and resurrection.  The only other historical contemporary to Jesus who had four biographical accounts of their life at that time was the Emperor Tiberius.  The gospels show a remarkable consistency for having been written by four different authors writing for four different audiences.  The gospels are Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John.

History – Just one book, Acts.  It begins with Jesus giving the disciples their mission to tell the world about Him, and then He ascends into the heavens.  The rest of the book tells how this mission was fulfilled through the early church.  It also reveals Paul’s incredible conversion to Christianity and his role as a missionary.

Paul’s letters – Not only did Paul take multiple missionary trips, bringing the gospel to several nations around the Mediterranean, but he also wrote letters to the churches he established and specific people he partnered with in ministry.  These books contain a mixture of Christian doctrine/teachings and practical advice on how to live like Jesus in a messed-up world.  Paul’s letters include: Romans, 1 Corinthians, 2 Corinthians, Galatians, Ephesians, Philippians, Colossians, 1 Thessalonians, 2 Thessalonians, 1 Timothy, 2 Timothy, Titus, and Philemon.

General letters – These are smaller letters written to larger Christian audiences.  They contain additional teachings and practical applications.  These letters include: Hebrews, James, 1 Peter, 2 Peter, 1 John, 2 John, 3 John, and Jude.

Prophecy – The book of Revelation is God’s foretelling of the end of earth’s history and the beginning of Jesus reign into Eternity Future.  You’ll find lots of symbolism and references back to many Old Testament people and situations.  Whereas Genesis begins with the story of Paradise Lost, Revelation ends with Paradise Restored.

A few things to keep in mind:

The Bible isn’t a science text – but it does contain some science references.  The Bible isn’t a history book, but there’s never been an archeological find that has contradicted a historical statement in the Bible.  The Bible never claimed to be “the book of every explanation”, but it does contain everything we need to understand God’s love and design for humanity.  The Bible tells us of God’s original partnership with us, how we fouled it up, and God’s plan to rescue us from the mess we’ve made.

I hope and pray that this brief description is helpful to you…perhaps even spurred some questions or curiosity about a book of the Bible you haven’t read in a while.  I’ll end with Paul’s encouragement to his protégé, Timothy:

2 Timothy 3:16-17
All Scripture is inspired by God and is profitable for teaching, for rebuking, for correcting, for training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work.

Keep Pressing,
Ken

What’s in the Old Testament?

We commonly refer to the Bible as a “book” – in fact, it is the best-selling book of all-time.  However, the Bible itself is a collection of 66 individual books.  These books were written over approximately 1500 years, by 40 different authors, and in 3 different languages (Hebrew, Aramaic, and Greek).

Through the Holy Spirit, God inspired the authors to write His words and His message to humanity.  Each author brought their own experiences, concerns, and writing style…and as such, we have a variety of literature types within the Scriptures.  The major division of the Bible’s books is between the Old Testament and the New Testament.  For this blog post, we’ll look at what God has said in the Old Testament:

Old Testament – This is a collection of 39 books of ancient Hebrew literature, which begins with the story of Creation and the fall of humanity into sin, which separates all of us from God.  These texts continue through the establishment and history of the nation of Israel, which are broken down into 4 major categories:

Torah/Pentateuch – These are the 5 books of Moses.  Torah is Hebrew for “teaching” and Pentateuch simply means “five books”.  These books detail out how God created everything, but quickly focus in on the establishment of the nation of Israel.  The books include: Genesis, Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers, and Deuteronomy.

History – These 12 books travel through Israel’s many ups and downs as they struggle between keeping in step with God and doing everything on their own.  Many of the familiar Old Testament stories are found in these books: Joshua, Judges, Ruth, 1 Samuel, 2 Samuel, 1 Kings, 2 Kings, 1 Chronicles, 2 Chronicles, Ezra, Nehemiah, and Esther.

Poetry/Wisdom – This is a collection of some of the most interesting and beautiful poetry you’ve ever read.  Many common sayings we still use today trace their origins back to this section of the Bible.  These books include: Job, Psalms, Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, and Song of Solomon.

Prophecy – God sent many prophets to Israel throughout the centuries.  Their writings are divided into what is call the “Major Prophets” and the “Minor Prophets”.  However, that distinction has nothing to do with the importance of their individual message, rather the prophets’ writings are divided up by size, with the Major Prophets having significantly bigger texts than the Minor Prophets:

Major Prophets: Isaiah, Jeremiah, Lamentations, and Ezekiel
Minor Prophets: Daniel, Hosea, Joel, Amos, Obadiah, Jonah, Micah, Nahum, Habakkuk, Zephaniah, Haggai, Zechariah, and Malachi

After Malachi’s teaching, God did not send a prophet to speak to Israel for approximately 400 years.  Then everything changed with the arrival of Jesus. 

Some modern-day Christians have wondered if it’s worth our time to read and study the Old Testament.  After all, since Jesus came and saved us, wouldn’t His teachings be enough for us to focus on?

The Apostle Paul had to say this to the church he planted in Corinth, in reference to the events of the Old Testament:

1 Corinthians 10:11
These things happened to them as examples, and they were written for our instruction

There are three ways to learn – by instruction, by example, or the hard way.  God has given us instruction and examples in the Old Testament so we don’t have to learn the hard way.  As such, it’s definitely worth our time to see what God has to say in those books.

Keep Pressing,
Ken

Lessons from a criminal

Tomorrow is known as “Good Friday”.  It seems strange to call the remembrance of an innocent man’s murder anything close to “good”… but that’s what we often see when God steps into our lives – what we assume doesn’t always match up with reality.

Jesus was wrongfully arrested, tried in a kangaroo court, and then used as a political pawn before being sentenced to death on a cross…all despite being innocent.  That certainly doesn’t seem “good”, either.  Crucifixion was one of the most barbaric ways to die, as the victim bleeds out, slowly suffocating as their strength fails while the hours, and even days, drag on.  The Romans perfected the process to exact as much pain and suffering as possible.  Over a 500-year span, it is estimated that Rome crucified somewhere between hundreds of thousands to as many as two million people.  That doesn’t sound “good” at all.

Yet, we still call the day Jesus was crucified “Good Friday”.  However, Jesus wasn’t the only person nailed to a cross that day.  Let’s take a look at Luke’s account:

Luke 23:32-42
Two others – criminals – were also led away to be executed with Him.  When they arrived at the place called The Skull, they crucified Him there, along with the criminals, one on the right and one on the left.  Then Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, because they do not know what they are doing.”  And they divided His clothes and cast lots.

The people stood watching, even the leaders were scoffing: “He saved others; let Him save Himself if this is God’s Messiah, the Chosen One!”  The soldiers also mocked Him.  They came offering Him sour wine and said, “If you are the king of the Jews, save yourself!”

An inscription was above Him: This is the King of the Jews.

Then one of the criminals hanging there began to yell insults at Him: “Aren’t you the Messiah?  Save Yourself and us!”

But the other answered, rebuking him: “Don’t you even fear God, since you are undergoing the same punishment?  We are punished justly, because we’re getting back what we deserve for the things we did, but this man has done nothing wrong.”  Then he said, “Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom.”

The Jewish nation looked forward to the day when the Messiah would arrive, rescue the nation from their oppressors, and set up the kingdom which God had promised for centuries.  This future resurrection/redemption is likely what the criminal was referring to.  Because of this, the criminal who had just put his faith in Jesus, believing that He was the promised Messiah, was probably surprised by what Jesus said to him next:

Luke 23:43
And He said to him, “Truly I tell you, today you will be with Me in paradise.”

When would this criminal see Jesus again?  When would he receive eternal life from Jesus?  Today.

Jesus’ gift of eternal life, for all who believe in Him, isn’t an IOU that will be fulfilled at some point in the future.  No, when we believe in Jesus, He gives us eternal life today.  Right now.  Not something to earn, not something to prove.  It’s His gift to you, and we can receive it because of His death on the cross.

He paid the penalty for our selfish, sinful lives – and because of that we are able to live the life we were initially created to live out.

John 10:10
A thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy.  I have come so that they may have life and have it in abundance.

The Greek word for may have is a present tense verb.  Jesus meant that we can have an abundant life right now, just like the criminal received.  All we have to do is believe that Jesus is who He says He is – the Messiah, the Savior sent by God – just like the criminal did.

And if Jesus considers a criminal who has been condemned to die as someone worth saving, then His offer is good for any of us, too.  That is good news for us.  That’s why it’s called “Good Friday”.

Keep Pressing,
Ken

They asked Jesus for permission to kill

In Mark’s gospel, when Jesus’ twelve disciples are first chosen, we find something curious…the first three listed all have nicknames:

Mark 3:14-17
He appointed twelve, whom He also named apostles, to be with Him, to send them out to preach, and to have authority to drive out demons.  He appointed the Twelve: To Simon, He gave the name Peter; and to James the son of Zebedee, and to his brother John, He gave the name “Boanerges” (that is, “Sons of Thunder”)

Interesting name for James and John – “Sons of Thunder”.  I don’t believe this was necessarily a tribute to their father Zebedee, either.  In Luke’s gospel, we find a bigger clue:

Luke 9:51-55
When the days were coming to a close for Him to be taken up, He determined to journey to Jerusalem.  He sent messengers ahead of Himself, and on the way they entered a village of the Samaritans to make preparations for Him.  But they did not welcome Him, because He determined to journey to Jerusalem. 

When the disciples James and John saw this, they said, “Lord, do you want us to call down fire from heaven to consume them?”

Whoa.  There’s a lot to unpack here.

You can understand why James and John are upset with the Samaritan village – after everything Jesus has done for this marginalized group during His ministry.  Jesus gave the Samaritans the clearest presentation of the gospel and had stayed with them before (John 4:1-43).  Later on, Jesus would use a Samaritan a the “good example” in one of His teachings (Luke 10:25-37), and He also had no issue healing them (John 17:11-19).  From these examples, we see Jesus’ heart toward this group of people that mainstream Jewish society routinely excluded, sneered at, and generally despised.

When Jesus’ kind feelings and actions were not reciprocated, James and John became indignant.  They wanted to administer justice, right then and there.  Even go so far as to make “an example” out of this hard-hearted town.

Did you notice whom they wanted to hand out the punishment?  They didn’t ask Jesus to do it for them.  Instead, the Sons of Thunder asked, “Lord, do you want us to call down fire from heaven to consume them?”  They had every confidence in their ability to do this.  Jesus had previously given them the ability to heal and to cast out demons, so, in their minds, they were good to go, just like the prophets of the Old Testament, as soon as Jesus gave the word.

Instead of giving permission, Jesus gave them a reprimand:

Luke 9:56
But He turned and rebuked them, and they went to another village.

Jesus shut down their request, removed them from the situation, and made them walk it off.

Put yourself in Jesus’ sandals for a moment.  Two of your three top lieutenants just tried to wipe out an entire town, and do it under your authority.  How would you be feeling toward them, especially when you think of their next assignment? 

Do you still have confidence in them to represent you well, if they were out on their own?
Would you consider firing them?
Do you feel at least a little wary or guarded? 
Would you consider assigning some extra supervision before you can trust them again?

That’s not the approach Jesus took:

Luke 10:1
After this, the Lord appointed seventy-two others, and He sent them ahead of Him in pairs to every town and place where He Himself was about to go.

They were rebuked, but they were not kicked off the team.  They messed up, but they weren’t demoted.  Jesus still included them in His plans.

How often does the church side-line someone, especially someone in their teens or twenties, the moment they “mess up”?  They get treated like a child and barred from helping in any major capacity again. 

But is that what Jesus did?

Nope.  Instead, He gave them more responsibility at the next opportunity.  He sent them out to essentially be His PR Crew – and without His direct supervision!

So, come on, Church.  Give the next generation a place to lead – and possibly fail.  If/When a failure occurs, it’s on us older believers to straighten them out, pick them back up, and help them get back in the game as soon as possible.

Christ didn’t give up on James and John when they failed, and He hasn’t given up on us when we have failed Him, either.  So, let’s follow His example.

Keep Pressing,
Ken

Jumper cable generosity

There’s a gas station I always stop at on my way home from church.  They have the lowest price per gallon in the area, so this is one of those times in life where convenience and need match up nicely.  On the Sunday before Christmas, I was filling my truck and minding my own business when the voice of a woman I did not know called out to me:

“Excuse me, sir, could you give us a jump?”

They were at the next pump over and had apparently just filled up their tank, only to have their car fail to start when they turned the key.  Without hesitation, I agreed to help.  After filling my tank, I pulled up so our cars were nose-to-nose.  We connected the cables and while we waited for their battery to charge, I noticed their daughter reading in the back seat.  I empathized with them because I understand the parental frustration of being in a situation like this. 

I mentioned we were coming back from church, and we talked about that a little.  We talked about the trouble the car had been giving them, and when they said they didn’t know a reliable mechanic, I was able to recommend ours.  After a couple of tries, their car started up, we wished each other Merry Christmas, and both families went on their way.

As we drove off, I was hit with a couple of thoughts… I should have invited them to our church!  A Christmas Service would have been such an easy invite.  I didn’t even think of it (to my shame, for which I kicked myself).  I was more focused on meeting their immediate need and wasn’t thinking eternal-big-picture in that moment.  So, I accepted that our interaction was positive and something God can use as a steppingstone for someone else to make that invite in the future.

The second thought that hit me was that giving them a jump didn’t really cost me anything, except 10-15 minutes of my time.  After we passed a charge from our battery to their battery, our truck’s alternator did its job of making up the difference.  Our battery was recharged back to where it was before the jump in the remaining 20 minutes it took us to drive home.

Helping them really didn’t cost me anything…but to those who received the jump, the help meant everything – the ability to get unstuck, keep moving, and take care of their own family.

Once I realized this, God brought these two verses to mind:

Galatians 6:10
Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us work for the good of all, especially for those who belong to the household of faith.

Proverbs 11:25
A generous person will be enriched,
and the one who gives a drink of water will receive water.

Being generous towards others typically costs less than we think it will.  Often, it costs us nothing but a little bit of our time.  We can change the direction of a person’s day…even their life…when we provide the little “jump” they need to get out of their stuck situation. 

God says we should be working for the good of all, giving what they need…even if it’s a simple as a drink of water.  God also says we’ll be enriched for doing it, so don’t worry about what the cost will be to step into another’s life.  Look for the opportunity to do so, and then “jump” in.

Keep Pressing,
Ken

When you don’t know what to do, read this chapter

If you want to be more consistent about reading your Bible but don’t know where to start, I have long-advocated reading through the Proverbs on a daily basis.  The book of Proverbs contains rich wisdom thoughts, mainly from the wisest person the world has ever seen – King Solomon.  He spends the first several chapters telling you all the benefits of gaining God’s wisdom and also gives several warnings of the pitfalls that naturally come if you reject God’s insight.

There are 31 chapters in Proverbs, so the reading plan is quite simple: you match up the day of the month with the chapter.  On the first, you read chapter 1.  On the fifteenth, you read chapter 15.  For months that don’t have 31 days, read chapters 30 and 31 on the 30th.  (I’ll let you decide how to handle February…)

This approach also works if you’re just not sure what to read next.  If you want to read God’s Word, but don’t know where to start, then jump to today’s chapter in Proverbs.

I’ve done this often enough over the years that I can say I have a “favorite” chapter.  The topics addressed in it cover a wide range of life, and there is always something applicable to what I have going on in the moment.  I even made a bit of a rhyme out of it, and I said it to my boys many times while they were growing up:

If you don’t know what to do, go read Proverbs 22.

Here are a few examples of the insight you’ll find there:

Proverbs 22:1
A good name is to be chosen over great wealth;
favor is better than silver and gold.

Especially early in my career, I needed to hear this.  When money is tight, we’re tempted to “do what we must” to keep things moving.  But long-term, a good name is greater currency that provides better opportunities than silver and gold

Proverbs 22:7
The rich rule over the poor,
and the borrower is a slave to the lender.

Debt is one of the biggest unseen weights we carry.  Borrowing might fill a need or desire in the moment, but the bill always comes due.  This proverb reminds us to help our future selves and our families by living within our means.

Proverbs 22:14
The mouth of the forbidden woman is a deep pit;
a man cursed by the Lord will fall into it.

“Don’t screw around on your spouse” is in God’s Top Ten Commandments for a reason.  I don’t care how pretty she is or how he makes you feel – God will not bless your actions.  In fact, He curses them.  We’ve all seen or experienced the fallout from someone’s adulterous actions.  Do not bring that into your own life.

Proverbs 22:24-25
Don’t make friends with an angry person,
and don’t be a companion of a hot-tempered one,
or you will learn his ways and entangle yourself in a snare.

You become the average of the people you hang around.  What type of character do you want to develop?  Find friends who already do that.

Proverbs 22:29
Do you see a person skilled in his work?
He will stand in the presence of kings.
He will not stand in the presence of the unknown.

The last proverb in the chapter is a companion to the first one above.  Great work does not go unnoticed.  Giving your time and energy to be the best at your craft will open doors that would never have been possible otherwise. 

These are just a few of the absolute wisdom bangers you’ll find in Proverbs 22.  I encourage you to check out the other proverbs there but also read the rest of the book.  One chapter a day is totally doable – and you’ll probably find that you, too, will have a go-to favorite place to land when you need practical life advice from God.

Keep Pressing,
Ken

Flashback Favorite: My spammed identity crisis

My spammed identity crisis
Originally posted on October 27, 2022

I hate SPAM.  I really do.  And as much as I despise that nasty concoction sealed in tin cans and sold in the grocery store…I’m not talking about that today.  The SPAM that I really hate is the one that shows up in my email inbox. 

Although I use the SPAM-filters on all my personal and work email accounts, there is always some junk emails that get through.  “Buy my stuff”, “Click this link” – makes me just roll my eyes.  Sometimes, the topic of the email is relative to something I’ve searched for or shopped for recently.  I bought some cordless power tools this past summer, and ever since I keep getting emails that I’m the “lucky winner” of a new tool set.  Other times, I can tell that my email address was sold to some list of random ads, clickbait, and phishing scams…often profiled to whatever demographic they believe I fit in: “Your Paypal account is locked”, “Life insurance – cheap quotes”, “Free phone – please respond”, “Find singles in your area” and on and on and on…

Looking at my SPAM file now…if my identity was defined by how these entities view me…here’s who I would be, based on just the SPAM I’ve received today:

The lucky winner of gift cards to both Kohl’s and Delta Airlines, a Milwaulkee Power Drill set, a Yeti backpack, as well as sweet deals for Canvas Prints, Gutter Guards, and a compression knee sleeve. 

Going back a couple more days, the SPAM companies’ picture of my identity includes:

Someone who is in need life insurance, a sloth Christmas t-shirt (twice), a sexy message from “Sofia”, a pizza oven, another power drill set, an American Airlines gift card, dementia information, and a warning that my McAfee account will be removed today!

It would be absurd for me to look at these junk emails and believe that they define what I should buy, where my interests are focused, or who I am as a person.  These strangers and their algorithms use scraps of data about me to construct a common-denominator profile, firing off anything a guy my age(ish) might be interested in.

But how often do we allow others to define our spending habits, our interests, or our value as a person?  It is very easy to allow the opinions of coworkers, fellow students, or celebrities to change our focus.  How much of our inner dialogue is shaped by what we see in commercials or on what the algorithms show us on social media?  How many of our wants, fears, and racing thoughts are driven by others and their view of what our identity should be?

We look for external affirmation because we know our internal thoughts can be biased.  The good news is that we can choose who is (and who isn’t) allowed to speak into our lives about who we are. 

Ever wonder what God says about our identity?

Once we believe in Jesus for eternal life (John 3:16), we automatically become children of God (John 1:12).  Here are a few more characteristics that God declares about His kids:

·       We’re rescued out of our old life and have a new home – one of love:

Colossians 1:13
He has rescued us from the domain of darkness and transferred us into the kingdom of the Son He loves.

·       We find forgiveness:

Colossians 1:14
In Him we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.

·       We have been brought near into God’s family.  God is no longer relationally distant from us:

Ephesians 2:13
But now in Christ Jesus, you who were far away have been brought near by the blood of Christ.

·     We have a home, a place where we belong:

Philippians 3:20
Our citizenship is in heaven, and we eagerly wait for a Savior from there, the Lord Jesus Christ.

These verses are a small sampling of what God has to say about our identity.  We can find many more identity descriptions throughout the New Testament books.  I suggest reading the letters I quoted above – Colossians, Ephesians, and Philippians – as these books talk a great deal about who we are in God’s family.  They are quick reads that will have great insight into who God says we are.

So don’t allow SPAM emails, social media algorithms, or other imperfect humans to determine your identity.  Instead, look to the one who gave you eternal life and made you a “new creation” (2 Corinthians 5:17).  If we trust Him with our eternal destiny, then we should be able to trust Him with our identity.

Keep Pressing,
Ken

Flashback Favorite: Dealing with gossips and trash-talkers

Dealing with gossips and trash-talkers
Originally posted on October 14, 2021

A couple of years ago, I engaged in what I would call “short-term mentoring” with a young man who was fresh out of college and just starting out in his career field.  We’d meet for coffee or food a couple of times, primarily so we could work through what he was experiencing as a Christian making the shift from the education world to the business world.  For some topics, he knew the right next steps – but just needed to talk through them out loud or bounce his ideas off of someone else.  For other topics, when he felt stumped, I would share my advice and experience.

One particular struggle was with a coworker who routinely bad-mouthed their other co-workers.  Can you believe so-and-so did that?  Watch out for them, they’ll serve you up to the boss in a heartbeat.  And that guy over there – laziest jerk in the company.  In my experience, there is always at least one person like this in any corporate setting, and sometimes this kind of behavior is throughout entire departments. 

But my friend felt stuck.  He was the new guy and because of their roles in the company, he worked with this individual all the time.  There was no “escaping” or “avoiding” the frequent negative attitude and gossip.  He didn’t want to talk trash on his other co-workers (that he just met and barely knew)…but he didn’t feel like he could look at this person and bluntly say “Thou shalt not gossip.”  He didn’t want to sour the relationship with someone he was required to work with, but he also didn’t want the other co-workers to think that he was gossiping and talking trash about them.

While the Bible does talk about the dangers and difficulties of gossip, most of the time it simply acknowledges that it exists and warns of the trouble it causes.  You won’t find direction on how to stop others from doing it.  It seems that God is much more concerned with what you do with gossip instead of deputizing you to become the gossip police.

Solomon addressed gossipy situations many times in his collection of Proverbs, for example:

Proverbs 11:12
Whoever shows contempt for his neighbor lacks sense,
but a person with understanding keeps silent.

Proverbs 20:19
The one who reveals secrets is a constant gossip;
avoid someone with a big mouth.

Proverbs 26:20
Without wood, fire goes out;
without a gossip, conflict dies down.

These proverbs give us three good options when we’re faced with someone who wants to spread rumors or talk trash: keep quiet, avoid the person, or don’t participate.

When I was talking through my friend’s situation at work, we agreed that the first two were not really options for him…since the person was someone he had to regularly work with.  So my advice focused on the last proverb’s point – that when his co-worker came to him with rumors or would bad-mouth their other co-workers, he did not have to accept the invitation to participate.  A couple of examples:

Hey, did you hear about so-and-so?  They got in trouble with the boss today…
I heard something happened, but I wasn’t involved.  If I need to be, I’m sure they’ll let me know.

Watch out, that lady will always stab you in the back.
I’ll keep that in mind, but that hasn’t been my experience with her.  Maybe she was having a bad day.

That guy is the laziest jerk in the department.  He never gets his reports done on time and his work is always sloppy.
Are you sure?  The last time I worked with him on a project, it went fine.

The main thing about these responses is that they do not pile on to what the gossiper was saying.  Maybe there is some truth to what they are complaining about, but “always” and “never” are rarely accurate labels.  It does no good to add fuel to the fire, and when we choose to not participate, conflict dies down.

The last point I made to my friend was that if he was able to consistently avoid gossip participation – if he politely refuted “always/never” or changed the subject to a relevant work matter – then eventually the person will stop bringing the gossip to him.  He’s no fun if he won’t gossip, too.  His consistency will be noticed by his other co-workers, as well.

Keep Pressing,
Ken